20 Jul 2018

BY: Janine Mitchell

Change consultant / Changing habits / Remove anxiety

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What has anxiety got to do with social media?

I caught up with my friend recently. As we chatted about what we had been up to, and he told me he had decided to take himself off all social media. Having had a very large following on Instagram, he decided to remove his account from his phone and restrict his checking in to 15 minutes a week.

This happened around four months ago. It has already changed his life beyond recognition. Before, he may have reported anxiety anywhere from up to 8/10. Since he came off all social media, this has reduced his anxiety right down to a 2/10! How amazing is that in only four months?!

My friend told me before he would be constantly comparing himself to others. Thinking others had a better life than him, or a better standard or quality of life. (Bearing in mind, my friend has one awesome life! – He’s got an amazing family, job and social circle, to name but a few). Whereas now he isn’t doing. He feels this area of his life has changed so much. He finds he cares much less about other people, and their lives, and their possible ‘perfect’ portrayal of them on social media.

He has also found he is more present. He is more in the now, and is less into anxiety, stress or worry.

People can often provide inaccurate portrayals of life on social media. It can then be easy to fall into the thought cycle of ‘my life isn’t so good, others lives are perfect, why can’t I have what they’ve got’. So on and so forth. We often obsess ourselves with other peoples lives and what they are perceived to have, rather than focus on the successes, happinesses and achievements in our own lives. The old adage, ‘Keeping up with the Jones’.

So, how is your current social media usage looking, how does it affect you, what can you do differently, and what difference will it make to your life?

Do you resonate with any of the following anxieties? –

  • Other peoples lives look better than mine
  • I’ve not got enough ‘likes’
  • Other people are having so much more fun than me
  • Other people are so much more attractive, better looking then me

You get the picture. What we are doing is comparing ourselves to others, rather than being in the moment and enjoying what our life has to offer. There is also often a very inaccurate portrayal of peoples ‘real’ lives on social media. Any posts will be more likely to focus on amazing parts of peoples lives, rather than the actual reality.

So have a think about how social media is affecting you and what you can do differently. Can you spend less time on there? Can you restrict the times you go on to certain points in the day? Can you have a trial where you go off completely, and see how life looks as a result?

Do let me know how you get on, I’d be really interested to hear the results!

29 Sep 2017

BY: Janine Mitchell

Change consultant / Changing habits / Changing mindset

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What are affirmations and can they help me? (Part 2)

 

Yesterday I introduced you to affirmations and how we are affirming things in our life over and over that are keeping us stuck (every thought we have, good or bad is an affirmation).

Our internal reality creates are external reality.

Let me explain further. Our thought process are a complete reflection of the lives that we are creating for ourselves. We are literally manifesting where we are in our lives moment to moment.

Lets look at how we can change this. We can do so by choosing to affirm what we wish or desire.

I want to teach you how to create the life you want by using affirmations.

Affirmations should have the following three P’s – 

  • Positive
  • Persistent
  • Present

So, affirmations need to be in the now, they need to be positive, and persistence is the key. If you have a go at this stuff and give up after a few hours or days and think, ‘jees, this isn’t working, I’m going to give up’, then please persevere! Remember, we have continually been thinking the old, familiar stuff for years.

What we are doing with affirmations is we are reprogramming the subconscious, we are instructing our minds to think in different ways.

It takes a minimum of 30 days to create a new habit. Keep going!

There are a couple of other things I want to share with you before I give you an exercise of how to use affirmations.

Affirmations need to be in the now. Not in the future or in the past. As if they are happening now. They also need to be framed as a positive. Don’t put any negative words in there. The subconscious will only hold onto, or recognise the negative, and thats the thing that will persist.

When you start off, it will very possibly feel uncomfortable and unfamiliar. Most likely of all, you won’t believe it. This is the good news. You don’t have to believe it at first. Simply keep going.

Here are some examples of affirmations for confidence –

  • I am confident
  • I am a naturally confident person
  • I am confident socially and enjoy meeting new people
  • I am confident at all times, and in all areas of my life.

If you are unsure where to start, there is a wealth of information on the web about what affirmations are, and what to say.

Louise Hay is the creator/ godmother of this stuff. Great content can be found via her website –

http://www.louisehay.com/affirmations/

Affirmations exercice

What is it you want in your life? What are you missing? What area of your life do you dramatically want to improve?

Write down a couple of affirmations (these need to be short and to the point, they don’t need to go on and on, a sentence will do)

Repeat your affirmations for five minutes first thing in the morning and for five minutes last thing at night. Put them on post it notes in various places. Your bedside cabinet, a mirror, in your car.

In addition to this, you can repeat your affirmations anywhere during ‘dead’ time as well. For example, while driving, brushing your teeth, walking the dog, doing the washing up, in the shower. You can say your affirmations to yourself , it doesn’t need to be out loud and equally, you don’t want to look a wally while you are doing the weekly shop! They will start to feel more and more familiar as things start to change in your life.

 

Remember, persistence is the key. Keep going and don’t give up.

 

If you continue and stick with it, this exercise is like gold dust, it really is.

 

Enjoy, have fun with it, and please let me know how you get on, I want to hear all!

 

If you would like to know any more about the work that I do, or how I can help you, complete the contact form below.

 

 

 

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20 Sep 2017

BY: Janine Mitchell

Change consultant / Changing habits / Eradicate limiting beliefs / Hypnotherapy

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How can hypnotherapy help me?

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Have you ever thought about going to see a hypnotherapist, but wondered if it would help? Have you heard of an amazing report from someone you know who went to see a hypnotherapist, so thought about giving it a try? Are there tons of myths about hypnotherapy that make you feel unsure? Do you have any anxieties about booking in to see a hypnotherapist? Do you wonder how something like hypnotherapy can help with a big issue that has been part of your life for too long?

 

These are some of the areas I want to help you clarify and I will dispel some myths too. By the time you have finished reading this article, you will have a better understanding of hypnotherapy and how it can help you.

 

First and foremost, we are in hypnosis for around 85% of the day. It is a simply a day dreamy state. So imagine some of the following – driving along the motorway, watching tv, listening to a friend on the telephone, scrolling through facebook. Your mind is kind of elsewhere, right? Drifting off all over the place. Sound familiar? Or if I asked you to think of a memory of the past, i.e. what was the colour of your first car, or what was the name of your first pet? You aren’t consciously thinking of these things the whole time, however, when asked to recall a past event or memory, you will trawl through your mind (the subconscious part) to access that memory.

The word hypnosis simply means a relaxed state whereby you go in and out of your internal world, accessing it the whole time throughout the day. Your internal world (your mind) and the external world (everything outside of you) co-exist.

Lets have a quick look at the mind. The mind is made of two parts. The conscious mind (around 5%) and the subconscious mind (95%).

It is very hard to make lasting changes at a conscious level. Don’t get me wrong, we can make change consciously. However, there has to be a firm intention and tons of energy behind it. Think of bad habits for example. Why do so many persist in the same bad habits for years on end, knowing deep down its no good for them?

Change can process at a much quicker rate if we actually get past the conscious mind and get into the subconscious mind. Hypnosis words with this part of the mind. The mind is extremely powerful and much of time time it gets underused. However, the other difficulty is, we don’t like change and we often resist change. It’s easier to keep ourselves stuck in the same old habits or routine, keeping us in the past if you will.

You might actually say, I love change, change happens all the time, and I am adaptable to new challenges and changes. This is however just the conscious stuff, which only represent 5% of who were are and incidentally where will-power exists.

If everything in your life here and now is perfect and you are completely content, I am super duper happy for you. However, is there something you do want to change, big or small? Wish you were slimmer and trim? Want to be in an exciting job that fulfils all your needs? Want to feel calm and relaxed and get out of the familiar feelings of stress or anxiety? Want to be financially abundant or attract a great relationship?

If you identify with any of the above or something similar, why do we find it so hard to achieve these changes we so desire, and end up leading a life of quiet desperation?

We form most of our core beliefs from a young age. Even before our conscious mind has had chance to develop yet. Some beliefs are standard and serve us well. However some keep us stuck. You may had heard the term ‘limiting beliefs’. This is what they are. Then when our conscious mind develops from around the age of 6, these beliefs stay there, nice and cosy. Then they become familiar to who we are. Then as we get older and into adulthood, we search for evidence to support these beliefs. (By the way, this is all done at a subconscious level, so we are not consciously aware we are doing it the majority of the time). Then we repeat similar patterns over and over. Also, certain events can often trigger these old beliefs too.

So how can hypnotherapy work? I help clients, in a really relaxed way get into the old subconscious beliefs, to help shift the old programmes and patterns that have been hanging around. It’s like reprogramming the mind. A modern neurological term for this would be neuroplasticity. The mind is adaptable, it’s not fixed. However, we tend to hold onto an old patten from the past because its easier to repeat the same old familiar stuff.

It’s really easy and effective, and quick too! Fears and phobias are resolved in 3-4 sessions, confidence, self esteem and public speaking similar, anxiety, stress and depression a little longer, depending on what we want to work on. Either way, its relaxed and informal, and you do the work along with me guiding you in the right direction. Clients report time and time again how much they enjoy sessions and how happy they are with the benefits in such a short space of time, when they had spent a life time struggling prior to sessions.

 

So many clients often say the same thing – the only regret they had was not coming to see me much sooner and how totally different they feel as a result.

If you resonate with any of this article, or know of anyone who would benefit, please feel free to get in touch via the contact form below, or to ask any questions, I’m here to help.

 

 

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24 May 2017

BY: Janine Mitchell

Change consultant / Changing habits

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Holding onto something that is ruining your life?

 

How does it feel to hang onto something thats severely impacting on your life in a number of ways?

Do you actually need to hold onto it? How free would you feel if that rubbish wasn’t handing around in your life anymore? Is there a reason you’re still holding onto it? Is it due to fear? – fear of change, or facing up to whatever it is you are holding on to and letting go of it for good? Are you worried that it will be an uphill struggle to get rid of it?

If you have answered yes to any of these questions, or can resonate, I can help.

Whether it’s a phobia, or any type of anxiety, I am telling you now, with certainty, you can release this for good. In a much shorter time then you might think.

How does this work?

You will feel very relaxed and at ease with my informal style. I will help you completely eradicate whatever you need. You are provided with a simple understanding of where this came from (I don’t regurgitate the past) You will feel empowered to understand you can release this old stuff, usually within a very speedy timescale. You will learn practical tools and techniques that you can use yourself and apply wherever needed.

And it isn’t all doom and gloom. Clients regularly report that sessions are super relaxed, friendly and informative. Everything we do is to benefit you. This is to enable and support big life changes.

It is my aim to ensure you completely remove what you need to in the most efficient way possible. My sessions are for you and I tailor them around your needs.

I continue to be overwhelmed by the results I see with clients and how quickly they can change their lives. I worked with a lovely lady recently who had a life long fear of the dentist. She could go nowhere near a dentist given the severity of her fear. Even the mere thought of it filled her with dread. This was having a huge impact on her health as a result.

 

See what she had to say –

 

“After almost 30 years of allowing fear to prevent me from visiting the dentist I could no longer take the pain. A friend suggested I visit Janine for some hypnotherapy. It was truly one of the best decisions of my life. After several sessions I began to understand myself and how the mind works. Janine supplied me with the tools I need to prevent fear from overcoming so many things in my life and I will always be truly thankful (and so are my family). I am most proud to say that just last week I sat calmly in a wonderful dentist’s chair and allowed her to put a needle into my gums. Never would I thought that to be possible. I am stronger and more unpowered through the amazing work of Janine and would recommend her to anybody who needs help”

Gail, Manchester.

 

Is there anything in your life that you need to change? Is it keeping you completely stuck? Is it having a negative impact on your life enjoyment? Is is impacting on your relationships? Are you anxious about the process? Don’t be. In my experience, clients I work with on similar issues remove what they need within an average of 3-5 sessions.

 

Don’t hesitate to get in contact for an informal chat. Or contact me on the form below. I can’t wait to help you change your life. 

 

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07 Feb 2017

BY: Janine Mitchell

Change consultant / Changing habits

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Why are habits so deeply engrained?

Have you ever wondered why it is so hard to change something you really want to? Maybe you haven’t yet achieved to do so? Perhaps its losing weight, giving up sugar, to stop drinking alcohol, stop smoking, or any other habit or behaviour change you want so desperately to change. Perhaps its something you’ve been thinking about for years, but you are yet to reach that target goal. Ever wondered why it is so hard to make these changes?

First of all, old behaviours, or ‘habits’ as they are often referred, can be deeply engrained. When you keep doing the same thing over and over. Often for many years. It becomes part of who you are, part of your makeup.

All of a sudden you make a firm decision that you want to change. You may have even been threatening yourself for years, making some veiled attempt to change that old habit or something you wanted to shift. It may have even worked well in the past. Perhaps you made that change you wanted to. Did you avoid some of the stuff that was bad for us and lasted a few days, maybe even a week or two? And then soon enough, before you know it, you are back firmly in the same comfortable old routine and behaviour, you know perhaps on a conscious level isn’t too good for you. Like popping back on a pair of old comfy slippers. Ahhh.

Have you ever wondered why that might be?

Well firstly if you have often performed a routine, or habitual behaviour for many years and then suddenly decide you want to change, this can feel unfamiliar, uncomfortable or unsafe. You are in the unknown, out of your comfort zone. Secondly, you are getting some kind of benefit or payoff from it, or enjoyment of some sort. But at the same time, you know its not good for you, but carry on doing it anyway! It also goes back to hardwired programmes that keep you stuck.

Our conscious mind only represents around 5% of who we are. We want to consciously be in charge, but often your subconscious mind has other agendas. So, that 5%, (or even less as modern researchers would suggest) guess whats in there – will-power.

So when you decide to make that big change, something you’ve been talking about and threatening for years, to yourself and others. It’s easier to carry on repeating the old patterns of behaviour because that is the known. When we repeat behaviours, routines, habits etc, we become some familiar with this established pattern of events. Circuits are actually hardwired in our brains to allow us to continue to perform the same actions as we always have done. When we learn any new behaviour or skill, this can seem hard at first. Upon regular repetition, it can become like second nature. We end up on autopilot, a record of the past. And when our brains circuits hardwire that information, (throughout learning and upon completion of said learning) it instructs our body to do something.

What therefore happens then is the body becomes the mind.

We become so familiar with the behaviours, our body knows where its going before it even gets there! I’ll give you an example. How often do you get up in the morning and before you know it, you’re in the shower and are washing yourself and getting ready for work the exact same way you do every other day, in that same familiar way. Or you dial a familiar number and your finger knows exactly where the digits are on the keypad.

You might be thinking behaviour change is so hard! Yes, it can be, especially if we keep repeating the same behaviours and expecting a different outcome. But change can often occur much quicker than you might think.

In order to make changes, I would suggest you do the following. Notice what your old patterns are. How can you start getting off auto-pilot and start becoming more conscious of your actions? Rather than walking round in a hypnotic daze, wondering when things are going to change?

Firstly, see if you can make small steps to moving away from blaming others, or situations outside of yourself. For example – “he/she/they/their/them have made me angry/sad/upset/annoyed/indifferent/guilty/resentful”. Once you start doing that, you will begin to make big changes.

Secondly, stop those old excuses that keep popping up within the internal chatter “todays not a good day”, “I’ll start tomorrow” – thats just the subconscious mind trying to unseat you, and in its own perhaps unhelpful way. This is merely in attempt to keep you safe.

Trust me, if you apply some of these small changes, you will start to notice bigger shifts.

If you want to know more about how change can be made, and often much easier than you might think, don’t hesitate to get in touch. Or have a check at what others have said on my website.

https://www.changeforsuccess.co.uk/testimonials/

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