I have recently reposted a video on social media which I recorded last year where I talk about surviving an abusive marriage and how one word completely changed the direction of my life. This was such a catalyst for me in what was a very difficult and challenging time of my life. But it allowed me to change things for the better and to enable me to move forward and create the life I want and move away from the one that was not serving me in any way.

A few years back I was in a completely different place to where I am now. I was in an abusive marriage and I was also stressed to the hilt in a very stressful job I didn’t enjoy. I worked with high risk offenders. I would typically manage lifers, sex offenders, drug dealers and violent offenders. In addition, I was silently suffering in a marriage. The whole thing put my on a downward spiral to disaster. I found myself at the lowest ebb of my life. So I went to see a therapist.

I had also just walked out of a job I couldn’t handle any more due to the stresses and demands, in addition to an awful marriage. It was 6pm on a Friday night and I had a decision to make. A big one that was to change the direction of my life forever.

As I was about to leave my first session the therapist turned and said to me, “There is one word you’ve said about 20 times today”. I couldn’t think for the life of me what it was, I was racking my brains. He then continued, “You keep saying the word ‘try’.”

He elaborated further – “If you keep saying the word ‘try’ to yourself what does it mean?”. I stared at him blankly, still puzzled. He went on to explain. “If we decided to meet for a coffee tomorrow night at 6pm, then if I said to you, Oh I will try and get there if I can, then what does that say to you? …as opposed to, I will be there for 6pm tomorrow night, I’ll look forward to seeing you then.”

It began to resonant with me what point this wonderful man was attempting to explain. “If we say we are going to try and do something, what does it really mean? It really means we are going to be late at best, or something else more important might come up. Whereas if we say we are going to do something, without the word ‘try’ in there, it is most likely we will follow through with this decision”.

It was as if a lightbulb had gone off in my head.

This point is two-fold. If we are telling ourselves something such as I will ‘try’, then this potentially gives ourselves an excuse to get out of whatever we need to (to keep ourselves safe and to not push us out of our comfort zones). What it also does is allow us to recognise what underlying subconscious patterns are running below the surface that perhaps aren’t serving us any more.

“So what are your plans now?” the therapist enquired as I was about to leave. I had just walked out of a stressful job I no longer wanted to be in, and I had big decisions to make about this marriage I was still stuck in. So I replied, “Well, I’m going to relax over the weekend and not do too much (I was physically, psychologically and emotionally exhausted) and then on Monday i’m going to tr……” as the word try automatically nearly fell out of my mouth! The therapist looked at me. As he did I quickly corrected myself. I then said “On Monday I’m going to….” And that was it there and then. I had agreed to make this decision to make the appropriate choice for me.

This conversation was about to change my life, forever.

I firmly believe if we had not had this conversation, I would have stayed on the old path. I would have returned to the ex, abusive husband, I would have most probably returned to my old job that I didn’t enjoy and was super stressful. It also made me realise I had been saying for many years, I will try and do this and try and do that, thus giving myself a cop-out or an excuse to not do something.

So notice what you say to yourself. Are you making excuses? Are you self-sabotaging? Do you use words that get out of making decisions? Are you stopping yourself from achieving the full success and potential you deserve?

As a direct result of this conversation, I created an opportunity for myself. Two days later I booked a flight. By the end of that week I had started my 3 week exploration around Vietnam as a solo traveller.

I can honestly say, it was one of the most liberating experiences of my life.

I walked right back into my life there and then. And I have never once looked back. I learnt skills, tools and techniques that would shape and change my life forever. It gave me a completely new understanding.

I am now super fortunate to be able to teach this skills and techniques now as part of my job, which I am extremely passionate about. I teach mindset strategies to clients which are absolute game changers and lead to life transformations.

I want to finish by allowing you to consider the following: –

• Notice what you say to yourself. Become aware of the unconscious. Become aware of the habitual patterns and familiar things you say to yourself. It could be ‘try’, it could be something else. Become conscious. It is only then we will start to make changes and explore at a deeper level what we say to ourselves.

• When you explore this further, notice what patterns and subconscious beliefs are underlying this. How are you stopping yourself moving forward to achieve exactly what you want?

• Most people are walking around in what I call the BS – Big Snooze. We are not conscious of our thoughts and feelings. The more we start to get off automatic, the quicker we will notice big changes and shifts.

• Make a firm intention to change the underlying thought patterns. Face challenges. Don’t give yourself an excuse to opt out. Whats the worse that can happen?

• If there are subconscious programmes and beliefs going on underneath, what are you going to do to change it? Mindset shifts can lead to massive changes. Every action is underpinned by a thought!

Please do keep me updated on how you are doing and I look forward to hearing from you!

Janine is the founder of Change for Success. She specialises in working with people to transform their lives. She does this by helping them overcome stress, anxiety and depression. She works with private clients at her consulting rooms in Manchester city centre. She also runs stress management workshops and helps companies and organisations improve their performance by reducing stress in the workplace.

Check out her website for more information and to see what others have said –

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Imagine a life where you felt completely restricted by crippling social anxiety, lacked confidence and had problematic sleep?

Imagine how debilitating life would be as a result? Imagine how many areas of your life it would inhibit, to your disadvantage. Imagine all the things you wouldn’t be able to do and how restricted life would be.

Well these were the difficulties one of my clients faced when they first came to see me.

A client I worked with recently struggled with all of the above. They came to me in a place where they were completely lacking in confidence, they experienced very little in the way of self worth, and their sleep was atrocious.

In the first session, I advised we could work through these issues, in a much easier way than they might think. The client experienced an immediate session of relief, simply knowing that life didn’t need to look like this.

 

Within a matter of sessions, this client began to notice some great changes. They said that they were sleeping much better and they were able to face challenges much easier. They felt more content in general, and much more in control of old anxieties and troublesome thoughts that had previously been keeping them stuck for a very long time.

 

My client also reported that they really enjoyed sessions. In particular learning why we do what we do and learning to see things from a new perspective. Also understanding that this behaviour didn’t need to be the same forever and that they could become the person they really wanted to be, and live the life they deserved.

It was so exciting and rewarding to watch my client flourish and grow.

 

A couple of months went by and my client literally bounced into the session. They had made some huge life changes, to their advantage. Why? Because they now felt the confidence to do so. They had removed all their limiting beliefs that was holding them back. Their confidence and assurance as they were telling me about their new life choices with such enthusiasm and vigour absolutely shone through.

 

We then reviewed what progress my client had made. They said their sleep was great, their social anxiety was a thing of the past, and their confidence had grown no end.

 

They discussed how they had enjoyed social events, when in the past, these would have been a thing of dread which they would have avoided at all cost. They also talked me through how they had been really assertive and confident in several situations, when previously they would have avoided these, or gone to mush.

To witness such fantastic progress in such a short space of time is super rewarding. This client didn’t need to go back to their old ways, they could now enjoy a new life they deserved, with a new sense of freedom and direction.

If you’re feeling in the same boat, experiencing the same issues or know someone that is, and wondering if there is a way out, or a new way to be, trust me there is. If you’re thinking of what to do, and whether you can implement the changes, trust me you can.

If you want to know how I can help you, just like how I helped this client, get in touch. It could potentially be the most life changing conversation you have ever had.

 

 

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What are your thoughts on visualisation? You might have simply heard of it and thought its just a load of old codswallop. You may have wondered what it is, and wondered how it may be able to help you. You might have had a go and thought it didn’t work. You could have tried and had amazing success. Or perhaps this has been something that you have been taught as part of your job role, or you have learned on a personal level – and experienced great results.

I am going to tell you more about visualisation, what it is, why it is so powerful, and how it can help you, in the most incredible way. I will also provide some ideas and top tips to help you along your way.

Firstly, what is visualisation? It is the art of creating a compelling image in your mind of what it is you wish to achieve. In my view, it is by far, one of the most under-utilised tools we have at our immediate disposal.

Your subconscious mind, which controls the most part of your powerful resource doesn’t actually know the difference between reality and imagination. So your brain see’s nothing different between doing something and visualising it.

There has been much research conducted around this, whereby control groups and experiment groups are asked to repeat a task, so learn something over a period of time, such as playing a piano. One group was told to actually rehearse the task. The other group was told simply to imagine, or visualise rehearsing the task. When both samples were tested, there was actually no difference between the performance of the group who actually practiced the routine compared to the group that simply visualised the task. Amazing hey! That is just one example, there are several more.

Did you know that sports psychologists and peak performance experts have actually been practicing visualisation techniques since the 1980’s? So this concept isn’t some new, or ’woo woo’, as you may initially be thinking.

So if peak performance experts and olympic sports performer practice the art of visualisation to achieve their supercharged goals, why can’t you?

Clients will usually come to me because there is something they want to change. It is with frustration and bemusement, that they can’t change what they need to. Like yesterday. We all want immediate and quick wins don’t we. So why is this the case, why can’t we change something quickly? Firstly, we have been thinking this way for a long time. Secondly, because we often focus on what we don’t want, or what we don’t have, rather than what we actually desire or wish to change. The mind is often in lack. Then guess what? – We will attract more of what we don’t actually want. We actually create mental rehearsal images as we do so, thus repeating the same behaviour.

Lets then turn this around. Lets visualise and imagine what we want, rather than what we don’t want.

If you would like to start visualising to achieve success in your life, here are some tips and ideas to get you started.

• Visualising is actually really simple. It takes no effort whatsoever. You simply need to relax, close your eyes. And show up. Ideally every day.
• Have a think what is it you actually want. Don’t be fluffy and go around the houses. Be specific and have firm intention and focus.
• Spend five minutes every single day just after you wake up, closing your eyes and visualising what it is you want. Make the images dramatic, bold and detailed. Imagine yourself being exactly where you want to be. If for example it is being in your dream house, imagine walking though every room in the house and using all your senses to be there. Imagine the sight, sounds, and the feeling as you walk round. Really be in that scene.
• Fill any images you focus on with real emotion. And imagine you are there right now. Not in the future, or anywhere else. You are there and you have achieved this fantastic life for yourself, whatever that may look like.

A quick caveat. Clients will often say to me that they can’t visualise very well, or that they can’t actually see anything. No problem at all, it simply means you are either not used to it, or you are more of a feeling person like me. If that is the case, once again close your eyes, and really imagine the feeling of the event or the scene you wish to create. Also remember that the subconscious mind thinks in pictures. So if I said to you, whatever you do, don’t think of purple elephant wearing giant poker dot wellies. …. You get the picture. See what I did there!

I want to leave with this. It works!! I use visualisation in my life, in order to create the life I want as part of my daily routine. And all those experts are using it to their advantage, so they can achieve their desired goals and successes. So what are you waiting for? Go for it! – I’m looking forward to hearing how you have been getting on.

Janine teaches visualisation strategies to her clients as part of her work as a specialist in her field. And she see’s amazing results, time and time again. Clients are taught powerful techniques that literally change their lives overnight, and they don’t look back.

Janine works with organisations and corporate clients. She also has a private practice where she see’s clients on an individual basis. She utilises bespoke programmes to work with you in helping you achieve your desired goals and outcomes. Please contact her direct for more information – [email protected] 

So how are you feeling right now? Are you feeling enthused, excited, raring to go? Looking forward to the day ahead with passion and vigour? Or are you feeling those familiar patterns? Maybe thoughts of, oh I’m too tired, I can’t be bothered, its raining again, I’m worried about x,y,z.

Or do you find perhaps mindless worries have been bothering you in general, waking up in the middle of the night perhaps? Be honest now, are there familiar patterns of thought and ways of being you are fed up with?

It is super duper important what we say to ourselves, and noticing this is key. Our inner world (thoughts, feelings, beliefs etc) is a direct representation of our outer world and our own perception of the outer world we live in (environment; anything outside of us). If we keep living in the negativity, guess whats going to happen? – we are magnetic fields (this is what all the modern neuroscientists are saying), we will literally attract what we put out.

We think on average 60,000 thoughts a day. Yes, 60,000 per day!!! Most of these are negative and the majority are from the day before. I certainly cant remember all my 60,000 thoughts from yesterday, can you? Most of them are unconscious. A programme from the past.

This is the advise I want to give you.

Be more mindful of your thoughts. Don’t let them go unconscious, don’t let them go unnoticed. Be aware of them. Take some time to notice what are the familiar and usual ones. I want you to spend little time on you. You can find five minutes a day! Write down what your most common ones are, do a bit of digging.

Then I want you to flip these around. So thoughts of “I am tired all the time” turn to “I am energised”. Thoughts of “I worry about everything” turns to “I am fulfilled”. I want you to then spend time focussing on these thoughts. Let them be your new mantra’s. Let them become part of you. Say them often. Hundreds of times if need be. Either in your head or out loud. It might feel funny at first, uncomfortable even. But go with it. Don’t judge it, just embody it. The more you do this, the more you will notice big shifts. And remember, the mind cannot think two thoughts at once, its physically impossible. This can be a new habit and practice, to create the life you want.

Have fun and keep me posted, remember personal development is the key to success!

If you would like to know any more about how you can make dramatic changes (from the inside) in order to live the life you actually want, please contact me to find out how I can help you.

Janine works with organisations and corporate clients. She also has a private practice where she see’s clients on an individual basis. She utilises bespoke programmes to work with you in helping you achieve your desired goals and outcomes. Please contact her direct for more information.

Hello! So yesterday was supposed to be the most miserable day of the year?

I don’t want to focus on this anymore, I want to focus on how this is the start of a new year, the start of a new chapter, the start of a new focus, goal or success. The start of feeling good for no reason.

In this article, I will touch on why we think the way we do and write about how we can start making subtle changes which will ultimately lead to big shifts. I will also provide you with three top practical tips that you can use straight away.

Unfortunately we have a tendency to focus on the negatives, as this is often innate within us. It’s easier to do so, and what better time to do it, right after the festivities, on the most dark days of the year when the weather is grey and dismal.

Even though negative thoughts are like velcro and positive thoughts are like teflon, it doesn’t have to be like this.

I want you to start focussing on what you want, rather than what you don’t want. We find it easier to focus on the lack, rather than what we actually desire, a common example if worrying about having no money, or being concerned about how we are going to pay the bills – guess what you are focusing on…will it go away when you do so, or will you attract more of the same? Unfortunately, it is easier to focus on the negative. With new ways of thinking however, we can actually begin to retrain the brain to think in different ways.

Why do we do this in the first place?

We are a nation wired to feed off negativity, we secretly love it. Turn on the news, it’s negative, open the newspaper, it’s negative, drive past a big crash on the motorway, everyone slows down to fully rubber neck and have a good look *sigh*

Our ancient ancestors were in survival mode 24/7. They were continually living by the hormones of stress. Today we are no longer generally in imminent danger, however too many of us continue to live by the hormones of stress by thinking and feeling in a certain way that keeps us stuck. So when we have a negative thought, this will release a chemical in the brain, e.g. adrenaline or cortisol. Of course, we all need some stress which can be positive and helpful. However if we are constantly living by the hormones of stress, we are literally living in emergency mode the entire time.

Do you think this is good for our bodies? It sure isn’t and what happens as a result? A number of things.

Often people will only meet absolute breaking point before they secure any type of help. Their back is against the wall, so to speak.

For example, experience a stroke, heart attack, stress related illness. By then it can often be too late, leaving the person thinking, why did I not do something sooner? I often say to clients, how much water can a sponge hold before it all comes dripping out?

It is actually easier to sort something out, before it becomes too late. We have to give ourselves a break, and work out what is more important in life.

To finish, I am going to provide three practical tips which will help you shift your focus and get you off automatic, a way you have potentially thought for a long time.

1. Practice new breathing habits. Most of us don’t breath properly most of the time, leaving our body’s starved of essential and much needed oxygen. Regular breathing exercises also allows us to slow down, be in the now and get off automatic, our patterns of the past. I want you to focus on your breathing every hour throughout the day. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath in for the count of 4. Then hold this for 4, then breath out for 5. I want you to repeat this five times. You will feel automatically calmer and much more focussed and more refreshed when you have finished.
2. Take more time for you in the working day – 30/70. I want you to practice some self care during your working day. Instead of shovelling lunch down at your desk, go for a walk. The former will NOT make you more productive, trust me. Avoid coffee and sugary drinks and drink plenty of water. Take a break, chat to others, get some fresh air. Focus on a 30/70 balance rather than letting work completely consume you.
3. Perform a random act of kindness. Do something kind today that will benefit someone else. Make two sandwiches and give one to a homeless person, send an anonymous gift to a friend, give someone a genuine compliment*

*In a recent study which explored the effects of being kind whereby participants were asked to do one kind thing a day, there wellbeing levels were then measured. The results found that people performing random acts of kindness for a week felt less angry, laughed more and felt more energised.

If you are struggling on your own, and need support and guidance now, I can help much quicker than you might think. I am happy to have a chat or you can easily book in to see me by dropping me a message.

Good luck with all the above, and let me know how you get on!

Janine

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My dog has been really unwell recently. So far, my vet bill has come in at £1,500. Luckily the majority of it has been covered by the insurance. Aside from that however, I haven’t thought twice about handing over my hard cash to the vet, so they can sort out the pooch problems and help get my dog well again. And neither would you. We pay what we need to, in order to ensure our pets are healthy and well.

 

When it comes to our own well-being or health however, are we prepared to put in the investment? Do we think nothing of the costs, and put our health first? I think in many cases, we tend not to. We would rather spend our money on seemingly ‘quick fixes’ in the pursuit of happiness. Things such as a football season ticket, a night out, some new clothes, a holiday. These spends might sure feel good at the time. However, unless we work with the route cause of how we are feeling within ourselves, it is unlikely anything is going to change, in the longer term.

 

Another way of looking at it is this. When you go to the supermarket and buy the weekly shopping, you my buy the essentials such as milk and bread, pick them off the shelf and put them in your trolley.

 

However, you can’t buy these things off the shelf – confidence, success, self esteem or happiness. These come from somewhere else. They come from the inside out. You will find it highly unlikely to improve these areas of your life from external validation either.

 

So, we are happy to pay whatever we need to the vet, to ensure our pets are happy and safe. But how do we look after ourselves?

 

Indecently, those who invest in personal development in whatever shape or form, are those people who succeed and do well in life. They are constantly improving themselves, while helping to eradicate old limiting beliefs that no longer serve them any more.

When will you think about investing in yourself and living the life you want and deserve, instead of the one you dream about?

 

Janine at Change for Success can work with you on a one-one basis to help you smash through limiting beliefs to enable you to achieve the success that you deserve. Janine will help you completely eradicating stress, anxiety and depression amongst other areas. Why suffer for a moment longer, when you don’t have to.

 

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Are you feeling stuck in a certain area of your life and wondering if hypnotherapy will work? Have you heard certain things about hypnotherapy and wondering whether something like that would be suitable for you? Have you ever wondered how hypnotherapy can help you with something that feels like it’s been keeping you stuck for years?

 

First of all, I want to teach you this. We are in hypnosis for the most part of the day. Driving along the road and wondered how you got somewhere? On a long phone call to a friend. Engrossed in a TV programme or a film, scanning through the internet. That day dreamy type state you find yourself in. This is hypnosis type state. Thats all it is!

So why is hypnosis so effective and how can it help?

It is very hard to make a change at a conscious level. Most of us find it easier or more comfortable to stay stuck in old habits or patterns of thinking. Yes, consciously we don’t want to stay stuck, but our subconscious programming has a different agenda. This will be based on old beliefs that are keeping us from moving forward. These are called ‘limiting beliefs’.

Another thing to remember is that that the mind is separated into two parts, the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. The conscious part of our mind only makes up around 5%. This is the part that is responsible for reasoning and logic. Whereas the subconscious mind takes up the rest, a whopping 95%. All our internal programmes, beliefs, emotions. It is essentially our storehouse.

Why do we stay stuck when really all we want to do is change?

We are continually instructing our subconscious mind in a certain way, usually a repeated pattern from the past. This is based on those old beliefs we formed a long time ago.

 

So, say your goal is to be happy. Why aren’t you feeling happy right now? What is going on that’s getting in the way of your happiness?

Why do old patterns tend to continue over and over?

This is usually based on learnt behaviour. Something at a subconscious level keeps us in our safety zone if you will. We don’t want to face the fear of the unknown, whatever that might be, so its easier to stay where we are.

Why is hypnotherapy so effective?

As I mentioned above, it is hard to change with the use of our conscious mind alone. We need to work with the subconscious mind, and get it on side to enable us to work with the changes we want. What we can do then, is work with the stuck limiting beliefs. Hypnotherapy works powerfully directly with the subconscious mind to do just that. In a nutshell, if we created certain beliefs, we can un-create them. Like erasing an old computer programme.

I see huge shifts with clients I work with. In only a few sessions, deep routed anxiety, stress and depression is shifted. I also see amazing results with clients who have issues around confidence, self esteem, and fears of any kind. Happy clients report success in a really short space of time. It really is great to witness time and time again, thats why I love the work that I do.

See what other clients have had to say and feel free to contact me on the form below for more information.

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Yesterday I introduced you to affirmations and how we are affirming things in our life over and over that are keeping us stuck (every thought we have, good or bad is an affirmation).

Our internal reality creates are external reality.

Let me explain further. Our thought process are a complete reflection of the lives that we are creating for ourselves. We are literally manifesting where we are in our lives moment to moment.

Lets look at how we can change this. We can do so by choosing to affirm what we wish or desire.

I want to teach you how to create the life you want by using affirmations.

Affirmations should have the following three P’s – 

• Positive
• Persistent
• Present

So, affirmations need to be in the now, they need to be positive, and persistence is the key. If you have a go at this stuff and give up after a few hours or days and think, ‘jees, this isn’t working, I’m going to give up’, then please persevere! Remember, we have continually been thinking the old, familiar stuff for years.

What we are doing with affirmations is we are reprogramming the subconscious, we are instructing our minds to think in different ways.

It takes a minimum of 30 days to create a new habit. Keep going!

There are a couple of other things I want to share with you before I give you an exercise of how to use affirmations.

Affirmations need to be in the now. Not in the future or in the past. As if they are happening now. They also need to be framed as a positive. Don’t put any negative words in there. The subconscious will only hold onto, or recognise the negative, and thats the thing that will persist.

When you start off, it will very possibly feel uncomfortable and unfamiliar. Most likely of all, you won’t believe it. This is the good news. You don’t have to believe it at first. Simply keep going.

Here are some examples of affirmations for confidence –

• I am confident
• I am a naturally confident person
• I am confident socially and enjoy meeting new people
• I am confident at all times, and in all areas of my life.

If you are unsure where to start, there is a wealth of information on the web about what affirmations are, and what to say.

Louise Hay is the creator/ godmother of this stuff. Great content can be found via her website –

http://www.louisehay.com/affirmations/

Affirmations exercice

What is it you want in your life? What are you missing? What area of your life do you dramatically want to improve?

Write down a couple of affirmations (these need to be short and to the point, they don’t need to go on and on, a sentence will do)

Repeat your affirmations for five minutes first thing in the morning and for five minutes last thing at night. Put them on post it notes in various places. Your bedside cabinet, a mirror, in your car.

In addition to this, you can repeat your affirmations anywhere during ‘dead’ time as well. For example, while driving, brushing your teeth, walking the dog, doing the washing up, in the shower. You can say your affirmations to yourself , it doesn’t need to be out loud and equally, you don’t want to look a wally while you are doing the weekly shop! They will start to feel more and more familiar as things start to change in your life.

 

Remember, persistence is the key. Keep going and don’t give up.

 

If you continue and stick with it, this exercise is like gold dust, it really is.

 

Enjoy, have fun with it, and please let me know how you get on, I want to hear all!

 

If you would like to know any more about the work that I do, or how I can help you, complete the contact form below.

 

 

 

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The signs of feeling stressed and/ or low or depressed can manifest themselves in a number of different ways. There can be a range of physical symptoms, and also common emotional feelings. The two are often easily linked.

Here is a range of some of the physical symptoms that can be experienced when we are feeling stressed or depressed –

• Lack of energy/ lethargy
• Low mood
• Increase in bad habits or poor diet
• find it difficult to relax or ‘switch off’
• Poor sleep
• Increased feelings of anxiety and tension
• Low immune system
• Aches and pains
• Lack of interest in social activities
• Increased blood pressure/ hypertension
• Skin complaints

This list is not exhaustive, but it gives you and idea of signs and symptoms experienced. Do you resonate with any of these? Would you like life to look differently? Do you wonder how you can get off this downward spiral and where this stuff came from in the first place?

This all actual goes back to the way we think. When we think certain thoughts, for example ones of stress, worry, grief, anxiety, fear, resentment etc, we release certain chemicals in the brain. Commonly known as stress hormones.

 

As we continue to think the same thoughts, our body becomes flooded with this concoction of chemicals (and this pattern can go on for a looooong time). This then leads to the common physiological symptoms, some of which you may recognise above.

 

The good news? This cycle can be changed. Today. Much quicker than you might think.

 

Do you want to rid yourself from the familiar patterns of stress or depression? What are the costs to you if you continue to live the current way you are?

 

The further good news! – There is nothing wrong with YOU! This is simply an old pattern of thinking that doesn’t serve you anymore. Contact me if you would like to discuss lifestyle changes today that will rid you of this old pattern, once and for all.

 

 

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Have you heard about how we can manifest what we want into our lives?

So why aren’t things happening as quickly as you’d like? Or what aren’t you living the life you’d like right now, or that you had envisaged?

 

Have you also heard that our thoughts create our reality? So what we think, actually creates our life. How you are living right now is determined by your thoughts and the collection of them up until this point. Sounds crazy huh? There is a mass of research emerging by neuroscientists to suggest that very thing. So it’s not actually so crazy people.

I bet you don’t want to let a single thought slip by again!

 

Let me clarify a couple of things in more detail. For one reason or another, as a society, we tend to focus on the negative. We literally feed off negatively. Turn on the TV, the news is negative. Open a newspaper, the thing is flooded with doom, stories of conflict and difficulties around the world.

You might be thinking one of two things.

First of all, I need to hear this stuff. Second, that in general, I am a positive person. Firstly, for every negative story, there will be thousands of acts of kindness. Most on your doorstep. How is by hearing all the stories of violence, war and destruction actually going to enhance our lives? Secondly, I applaud you for being a positive kind of person. However, I would urge you to ask yourself this – is every aspect of your life fulfilled and happy? If they are, I am super duper happy for you.

However, something tells me there might be a couple of things you may want to change. Firstly you are reading this article (yay) and secondly, there is always often something we are striving towards. Be it tons of money in the bank, the most amazing career unimaginable, peak health, or amazing relationships. So why haven’t you got those things right now? Why aren’t you right where you want to be? What is still missing?

I’ll let you into a little secret or two.

What we actually do, is by thought alone, we focus on what we haven’t got. So we are focussing on the negative. I will give you some examples of these thoughts. “I really want to earn tons of money, but I am struggling financially most of the time”, “I really want this illness to go away, but it feels lousy and rubbish feeling this ill all the time”, “I want to be full of energy, but I feel tired most of the time”, “I want to be so successful and happy but I’m feeling low and at the bottom of the pile”. Do you see what we are actually doing? We are focussing on the negative! We are focussing on the lack! So what we are actually doing is manifesting into our lives what we don’t want by focusing on it.

Our thoughts are actually creating a current reality.

 

Here is another one for you. Your world right now, is a reflection of your thoughts and feelings about your current life. Right now. Your inner and outer world are completely connected. Your outer world (so your experiences and everything linked to that) is a direct reflection of your inner world (your thoughts and feelings). And the outer world is a direct representation of you. You are conditioned by the outer world, whatever surrounds you. Much of this happens on auto-pilot.

 

Here are some practical examples you can use to get yourself both off auto-pilot and to begin to create your own reality – whatever you would like in your life that you are currently lacking, or whatever goal you wish to achieve:-

 

Let go of the negative. Be more mindful of your thoughts. Don’t let negative ones pass you by. Notice what thoughts comes up, notice the patterns in your thought process. Spend time on this. Be conscious about what you say to yourself. Every time you hear a negative, stop it as quickly as you can. Stop it in its tracks and replace it with a positive or the exact opposite thought. This takes time and practice, persevere with it, I am teaching you to re-programme the mind. Its had years of current programming!

 

Use affirmations. Have some standard affirmations that you say to yourself on a regular basis. Again, persistent and perseverance is the key! Start the small sentence with “I am” repeat, repeat and repeat. Have them around the home, by your bedside, on mirrors and in the car. Anywhere you can see them easily.

 

Visualise. This can be a straight forward and easy process. Find somewhere quiet. Close your eyes and imagine relaxing yourself from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Have a firm visual idea about what you really want to achieve. Imagine you are there, see how it feels, notice how you feel and really crank those sights and sounds up, really be there! The subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between reality and imagination, so make it as vivid and real as you can! Every time we instruct the subconscious mind – it will give it back to us in droves. Again, it is all about persistence and showing up, thats they key in all of this.

 

Please do let me know how you get on, I look forward to hearing what you have begun manifesting into your life. If you need any more help at all or would like to ask any questions, I am happy to talk further. I can also help you achieve whatever you want into your life, by way of a super-boosted process within private one-one sessions. Much quicker that you might think. Happy manifesting!

 

Janine can be contacted via the form below. 

Janine works with private clients on a one-one basis and also with corporate clients and organisations helping them to change their mindset so they can live a life of success, wealth, health and abundance.

 

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