BY: Janine Mitchell
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We all have mental health like we have physical health.
It can often be hard to ask for support or help. Mental health can still be seen as a taboo subject. Or its often seen as easier to solider on, much of the time we either don’t want to ‘burden’ or worry others. Or oftentimes we can be of the view our problems are ‘not as bad’ as, or comparable to others.
We should ALWAYS prioritise our own mental wellbeing and how we are feeling. It’s SO important. It can often be forgotten, or put on the back burner. However, sometimes it can be too late. I’ve seen many people wait for crisis, or a big negative life event to happen before they ask for help. Or worse still, they don’t at all.
We only have one opportunity to enjoy our life. Prioritise you. It’s vital that you look after you, perhaps like you do everyone else. It all starts with you.
Firstly, it’s okay to ask for help.
It actually takes more strength and courage to be open about asking for support. Why? Because it’s easier to carry on and ‘hope’ that everything will be okay and consequently not be open about how you are feeling. Once you can acknowledge how you are feeling, both towards yourself and others, it is more often than not like a huge weight has been lifted.
I see this in my practice ALL this time, it’s very common.
It can often be the hardest decision to make that initial first contact and talk to a complete stranger. However what I hear time and time again is that they feel better immediately after, and feel lighter after a burden (that they have usually carried around for a long time) has been lifted.
Secondly, it’s a huge relief to understand that there is nothing wrong with you whatsoever.
As I stated earlier, we all have mental health like we have physical health. Sometimes we are faced with life events or ongoing challenges that impact our thoughts, feeling, or mood and leave us in a place where we may feel overwhelm or burnout.
We get our cars MOT’d every year.
You wouldn’t drive your car if it had a completely bald or damaged tyre, you would get it fixed before it caused you any serious injury. Why not look after you, like you do your car?
It’s important to know that you don’t need to suffer. Once you start to make changes, life changes dramatically.
I see this with clients again and again, oftentimes clients who have suffered for a long time or experienced a history of poor mental health, who make change in a very short space of time. They go from feelings of anxiety, long terms stress, depression, negative thinking, low mood, helplessness and overwhelm. To feelings of happiness, living a life they love, and thrive in. Relationships improve, not only with others, but more importantly, the one with themselves.
The first step to asking for help
Talk to someone you know or are close to; a friend or family member. There are numerous professionals you can reach out to. Many have initial introductory calls. You can speak to someone who is completely impartial and non judgemental who can offer you immediate advise and support.
There are also numerous mental health support groups around the UK. One of my favourites is Andy’s man club, which specialises in working with men and offers a safe space for men to talk. You can find women’s mental health support groups through the wonderful charity MIND.
If you are concerned about your own mental well-being or that of someone you know, do contact your GP in the first instance who will be able to refer you to local support.
What can you do to help yourself and make huge, positive changes?
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) otherwise known as tapping is the most amazing self help tool for mental wellbeing which you can learn and implement immediately. Find out much more about this life changing self help tool here: Tapping for mental health
Mental health should always be prioritised and taken seriously. There should be no stigma in being open and honest about our feelings. If you are concerned about your own mental health or that of someone you know, get in touch to arrange an introductory call, there is support there. I’ve been where you are and I’ve seen my clients over the years in the position you’re in now and supported them in getting to the place they deserve. I’m here to support you.
Janine is the founder of Change for Success.
She is a published researcher and is a renowned leading authority in this field.
She specialises in transforming mental health and mindset working with individuals and companies and organisations by helping them improve their performance and productivity by reducing stress in the workplace.
She has a Masters’ degrees in Psychology, is a hypnotherapist, NLP and EFT practitioner.