BY: Janine Mitchell
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Although it’s important to raise awareness for mental health with awareness days and weeks, mental health should be talked about openly all of the time.
Even though this is happening more and more, there still remains a stigma.
However there shouldn’t be. Why shouldn’t it be okay to admit you are struggling with your mental wellbeing?
We all have mental health like we have physical health, so why not be open and talk through how we are feeling?
Oftentimes it can feel very difficult. We are fed so much information throughout our lifetime. However, when we are young, we take everything in like a sponge. We have not filter. This will then often shape and condition who we are.
Men in particular are told ‘big boys don’t cry’ and ‘you’re not a real man if you show any emotion’; to name but two. Then this can formulate of our belief system. It can quite often shape who we are and how we perceive our world, and be core to what we believe. This however does not need to be the case.
We often then find it easier, or safer to not be open or talk through how we are feeling, or perhaps brush it under the carpet in the hope it will go away.
However it’s a rarity this will happen. In my many years experience of working in mental health, I’ve found that this will show itself one way or another. Usually via some form of maladaptive, avoidant or unhelpful behaviour, This may well feel good in the very short term. However it will never resolve the underlying issue, trigger or symptom.
The mind is a muscle. Sometimes it simply needs a bit of TLC.
If your toilet breaks, you call out a plumber. If you need some building work doing, you hire a builder. If your car breaks down on the motorway, you call the AA or contact a mechanic. If your hair needs cutting, you go to the hairdressers. Want to lose weight, you join a gym, exercise or go on a diet. Any kind of problem we come across in life, we usually like to find the most reliable, prompt and suitable solution.
So why when it comes to the most important part of us, the part that looks after ALL of us that we rely on for all of our thinking, our actions and our behaviours, that we often don’t prioritise our mental wellbeing.
Take stress, it’s a huge issue in society at present.
Recent research has found a staggering 73% of men and 81% of women in the last year alone reported feelings of being unable to cope and feelings of overwhelm. 84% of 18-24 years olds reported the same, 32% of this age category reported feelings suicidal as a result of feeling so stressed.
I have personal experience of someone who has taken their own life as a result of feelings of utter despair. I have also heard of many cases through lockdowns and people struggling to cope, for a variety of reasons. A person who feels so low to a point they don’t know which way to turn, they take their own life.
I want you to understand this message; it IS preventable, there is always a way out.
There is support out there. If you are reading this and you are struggling, or know someone who, please get in contact if you need support, guidance, or pointing in the right direction.
I have worked with hundreds of people over the years. I’ve seen them achieve life success they never dreamed possible. Clients who have recovered from long term clinical depression, feelings of despair, overwhelm and debilitating stress and fatigue. To lead a life of happiness and freedom, making the life choices that support them and that they truly deserve.
Clients always report the huge difference they feel in a very short space of time. I commonly get told that they wish they’d started working with me sooner and that they enjoy and benefit from our work together. Why? Because they are learning new ways of thinking, often a completely new perspective. Old stresses are a thing of the past.
Talk to someone today. Remember it’s okay to not be okay. There is always support. Don’t break down on the motorway and stay stuck in your car forever, call the mechanic and get yourself up and running, and back headed to where you were going.
If you resonate with any of this, or know someone that’s struggles, contact me today for a complimentary introductory call to find out how I can help you.
Janine is the founder of Change for Success.
She is a published researcher and is a renowned leading authority in this field.
She specialises in transforming mental health and mindset working with individuals and companies and organisations by helping them improve their performance and productivity by reducing stress in the workplace.
She has a Masters’ degrees in Psychology, is a hypnotherapist, NLP and EFT practitioner.